Our Christmas 2004 pictures are online. Click on For the first time in I don't know how many years,
Maria's arrangement with her father's side of the family is that she spends Christmas Eve with them, and Christmas Day with her mom, so she's had two Christmases for as long as she can emember.
I have three siblings (a younger brother, and two older sisters). and Lynn has one. And ever since my younger older sister got married [for the first time] in 1982, we (that is, the Badens) have celebrated Christmas on whichever day we could all get together, which might not be Christmas if Elaine and Willie were off visiting Willie's family.
Then my elder older sister got married, so even if Elaine was in town on Christmas Day, Dorothy and Bob might be off in Texas visiting the Bullards. So, we've had a "tradition" of celebrating Christmas late. It's been a running joke that we do it to hit all the after-Christmas sales, and it's certainly been handy to be able to do the xmas shopping in stages. (If you're not the organized kind that keeps an eye open all year for appropriate gifts, that is.)
Well, it's been like that for more than two decades.
But this past December, the stars aligned, we didn't have a lot of long out-of-town trips to contend with, so Dorothy invited us all to come over on Christmas Day for our Baden-family gift exchange.
This was also the first year that Maria didn't sleep at our house Christmas Eve. So by the time Maria, Lynn and I were up and at the house, we only got through about half of the presents we were giving to each other before we had to dash down to Dorothy's.
Dad had brought a number of DVDs and books to pass on to us, and they went quickly. We put the ham in the oven, we snacked on other goodies, and got down to exchanging presents. The system we use is someone (if anyone has brought a friend, that would be the person to start, or if someone has been newly added to the family that year, otherwise the youngest, i.e. Maria) picks out a present under the tree that's for someone else. That person unwraps it, we all admire it, then that person picks some other gift that's not for themself or the person that just handed them one.
It gives everyone a chance to see everything, and sometimes to surreptitiously swap gifts. And it takes a while. This time it took us just under 6 hours to go through the process.
Later in the week we visited Shawn and Colleen, and stopped by the same day as Andrew and Jennifer. They come down every year to visit Jennifer's mom in Redondo Beach. And on the 30th we went out to my sister-in-law's house. Lori and Bill have a house in Outer Palmdale; Bill's kids Kylie & Zach and Bill's dad were all there, also
Speaking of Baden family traditions, last weekend
But that's not the interesting part.
My parents had to contend with raising four kids, the eldest 9 years older than the youngest. So they came up with a system that made sure that the Easter candy hunt festivities were equitable. (We didn't hunt for easter eggs; those were decorated and eaten indoors.) They'd take all of the candy, divide it into equal shares, and put them into several individual baggies marked with different colors of ribbon. They'd "hide" the baggies in the back yard -- but always in plain sight. Nothing was underneath, or behind, or inside something where you couldn't see it when you were standing up.
Then when all was ready, they'd let us loose. I might be looking for the blue ribbon bags, Thomas the green, Elaine the red and Dorothy the gold. Or perhaps some other colors. It didn't really matter, because we'd each end up with matching bags of candy once we'd found everything.
And of course, one of the rules was that if you saw someone else's color ribbon, you left it alone and walked on by -- and you kept quiet about it, too. (Unless they were stuck and frustrated towards the end and needed a clue where to look.)
So that's what I recreated for our Early Easter party.
Possibly we went overboard on the candy -- we divided it 15 ways (I found 15 different kinds of curly ribbon, including polka-dot) and there were 9 bags each. I think Mom & Dad would do between four and six bags per kid... We hid them in the back yard, and in the house on book shelves in the living room and dining room, in the kitchen, and in Maria's room.
We had about seven kids at the party. (Caitlin, Ariel, Corwin, Makenna, Sam, Tess, Johnathan.) It didn't matter if you came late -- you wouldn't have missed the hunt. I had samples of each color ribbon taped to a card, so the participants would write their name on their sample and take it with them to match up to the ribbons. (Very important, the reds/pinks/magentas were tricky, as were the greens, blues, and purples.) It didn't matter if you were five or ten years older than some of the other kids. Or thirty years older -- some of the adults formed teams and went around looking for candy too. (I didn't want the adults to have to hold back to "let the kids play" so I was glad some of them participated.) I overestimated the number of ribbon colors I needed, but that was okay -- it meant that even for the last team hunting, they had to skip over the ones that were the wrong color.
Our neighbors, Laurie & Tom, were quite impressed by the concept. They do a big easter party with easter egg hunting, with lots of children and cousins and nieces and nephews. We talked about how you could adapt the system using colored plastic eggs - if you get enough colors, you could mix and match solid vs. half-and-half combinations. Blue, blue/yellow, blue/green, blue/red, and so forth. Or you could go further by marking them. (You could also deal with allergies and the like -- if someone can't have chocolate, you make one set that's chocolate-free and make a note of which color combination's been assigned to them.)
... After writing about these Baden family traditions, I'm reminded of two other things: how we celebrate Halloween, and the opinion that the Baden family might constitute our own ethnic group...